Who do you want to be when you grow up?

1 John 3:2 English Standard Version (ESV)

Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appearsa] we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is.


“Who” do you want to be when you grow up? Remember being asked that question when you were growing up? Or “what” do you want to be when you grow up? It seemed like such an abstract concept that was way off in the future somewhere. A full life was ahead of you. For many of us, opportunities seemed limitless if only we were willing to work for it. Many of us weren’t scorned by life events yet. But life goes on and changes. We get older. Get bitter. Settle in our ways. Develop strong character traits (or flaws). We start to believe that life is now set. We are who we are. Things can’t change- and neither can we. Bad things and tragedies may now have made us feel less than positive about ourselves, others, or the state of the world. Life becomes, well, life!🙄

Yeah, life HAS changed. We aren’t kids anymore. We are “adulting” now. And of course we never stop aging. If you have experienced the alternative to aging, you wouldn’t be reading this! But, do we have to stop growing? Stop maturing? Stop working on ourselves? We don’t, people! Come on, get yourselves together! 😋 Every day that we are alive, is a day that we should ALWAYS be working on ourselves. We ALL have things we can work on and change. I’m not talking about changing the core of who we are, much of that is truly done by the time we reach adolescence (some experts say as early as age 7). I am talking about the everyday things we can do to improve our lives, or even someone else’s life. We can always strive to be the person we truly want to be, the person your momma would be proud of, every moment that we breath! Or as my momma would’ve said, “more like Jesus”.


So, who do you want to be (or be like) when you grow up? I know “who” I strive to be:

          I got a huge compliment while talking to my grandma recently. (Let it be known that my grandma and I usually talk about once a week for an hour!) I am so blessed to have this kind of relationship with my grandmother at my age. I wish I was still that little girl who could go spend a week at grandma’s house during every holiday vacation – except now we would be able to sit and laugh and talk about adult things (and drink wine). She told me that some friends of her’s from church said to her the other day, “it must make you so proud to have a granddaughter who is so much like her mom was.” You have to understand that this is the church my mom grew up in, got married in, and had her funeral in. These people knew her her entire life. And they knew me as a child- although they would only see me a few times a year. So for them to tell my grandma this, not only made her feel really good, but made me feel great! Like I have succeeded in life. My mom was an amazing person, who had an incredible spirit, a giving heart, strong faith, and an incredible magnetism. I have to admit I got choked up. Then I told my grandma that my ultimate goal was to be like her! My life would be complete. And that made her get choked up😉She doesn’t think she’s all that, but her family knows better! I have to remind myself sometimes to be more patient, faithful, and gracious- like my grandma. It is a tremendous compliment to be compared to either of these women!

So who have you come across in your life that made you think, “wow, that person has something special. That person really could teach me some things. I want to be just like this person when it comes to ____”? Maybe someone that makes you want to be more generous, more compassionate, a harder worker, a better friend, better spouse, better parent, more spiritual, more punctual, more empathetic, etc. Do you have “things” you need to work on that you’ve been avoiding? Can you be a more complete and happy individual?

A friend of mine asked an interesting question recently: “can any of us ever truly become our true selves alone?” It got me thinking… I believe we all need other people to truly realize who we are and who we can be.  Maybe it is the people in our lives that can help us reach our full potential? Is there someone that makes you want to be the best version of yourself that you can be? Is there someone you’d like to emulate? Stop being complacent. Stop being lazy with yourself and selling yourself short. Life is too short! Be the best YOU that you can be each and every day. Stop complaining about your life, your situation, or your past. You can learn from the past, work through your issues, and grow! Each day is a chance to be the person you truly want to be when you grow up!🤗



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